DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

niggas need them a backbone.

yesterday, on Bol's post on XXLmag.com, a discussion erupted. his post was about the black woman complainin about Reggie Bush bein on the cover of Essence cause he was wit Kim Kardashian, who is not black. (but what is that nowadays? have they seen that ass?) me, of course, u know i went in.

but then a female commenter, Mousie, came into the forum and commented and then the fellas all went into this apologetic, apathetic stance. some even optin to take back what they said (shame on you nicholasdelorejo), even after Mousie made such a blatantly uninformed statement that said that in the 60's and 70's black men "decided" (all at once, i suppose) to not take care of their kids. she ends her comment with "Fuck yall niggas" from Jay-z's "Takeover". me, of course, i asked her if i gots to be her nigga, why can't she be my bitch? i'm hopeful to get a comment from her today.

me, i cant speak for all yall, but i've had enough of doin the same thing over and over. i'm not makin excuses for nobody. not for me and definitely not for u. a pause for the reality of the situation: we all are sufferering from a mass form of abuse. the psyche of people of color has been terribly scarred by the force of slavery, imperialism and colonialism. me, im Indian and African, so i feel the pain twice as deep. so i dont wanna hear that whinin when u see my picture, see my hair and be like, "you're not Black!" i dont need to be to be oppressed. but for the sake of this discussion, my mother will make Sam Jackson look like a redbone. dont bother me with those tired ass skin color politics.

this mass abuse is just like a an abused child, or an abused animal (for my white folks). that abuse has long reaching effects, and will affect that person/ animal for years, until some sort of treatment is given to first identify it and then to relieve the individual of the burden and mental blockage that causes and precipitates abnormal behavior. but then there is the subjective abuse that affects the individuals singularly from that pool of abuse we all spring from. in women we have this manifested in their direct relationship with or without their father. it really does scar the way they look at themselves and the way they deal with men. i know in my life i've felt a certain pressure to have a lot of women cause i'm pretty, peer pressure mostly. (i'll go into what affects the men in another post.) i've received comments over the years like "oh, i know u got a lot of kids". shit like that. so when u outgrow that and really start wantin to deal with quality over quantity, u get to this point in ur dealings with women where they start to want to make u prove urself over and over again, no matter how much u do for them. they want to take u thru tests and argue everything u say. some will even do things that sabotage the relationship itself, such as keep ties with other men. some start arguments and fights over the things they want that "u cant give them", which is really them tryin to reason a way out of the relationship. some just strait up fuck somebody else. cause in a lot of these chicks mind, if they own daddy couldn't love them, how is it possible that you can?

a queen is worthy of the title. and those not worthy, usually wear this crown by force. thats in principalities. in the realm of perspectives, u only have ur presentation and ur conduct to deserve that title. a lot of women want to be called queen just cause they black. beat it. even in the old kingdoms, every women wasnt no gotdam queen. somebody had to do the laundry, ya dig? you can be the queen of your household, but what do u do to deserve that title when traveling abroad? traveling dignitaries have motorcades and announcements proclaiming the arrival of a queen. if u aint got all that, all u have is the way u carry it, love. but thats ACTION. i need to see it. cause if u tell me u a queen and u sloppy, business aint handled right, fuck with anything less than a thorobred, i got a hearty "get the fuck outta here" for you on reserve.

then im sick of this tired ass rhetoric and bullshit reasoning. "we have to take back the way we're portrayed in the media". "the music has helped contribute to the low self esteem of women". get the fuck outta here!!! the music aint do shit! or the images either. i am a supporter of anything that will build wealth for poor people. if these girls can make a livin off of bein beautiful, baby, go get your money! its ok for white women to do it? you black women only say its wrong for BLACK women. you NEVER have the same criticism or white women. even if we are witnessing the total restructuring of the value of beauty in the favor of women of color, whereas nothing else was deemed valuable because of the prominence, the dominance of the image of the white woman. are u still too nearsighted to see a social revolution happening in front of you? one that is caused just by YOU being beautiful, black woman? but YOU would demonize and criticize the image of your own selves. and u don't see where thats a symptom of abuse?

and then the one about the music? are u serious? it may reinforce the images. it is not a source for them. any pimp will tell u that aint a ho hoin that aint already had years of abuse piled up on her until a pimp showed up to show her a better way. yes, a better way. cause a lot of these broads are out here fuckin without regard to life or injury caused by irresponsible behavior. a pimp will at least make sure shes tested, she uses condoms and stays safe, cause he has a vested interest in that bitch stayin healthy. a bitch thats runnin the streets with no to low self esteem doesnt care what happens to her. even if she catch them letters. see, the negative aint goin nowhere. GOD made the DEVIL. even he thought it was necessary for the negative to exist. and since god made evil, evil exists in the mind of god. therefore, how do you honestly think you gone eradicate it from this plane of reality? won't happen. so at least the negative can be managed. like a pimp does a ho. or like the street life used to have rules and regulations that prevented the acts of those in "the Life" to spill into the lives of the uninitiated. and as any pimp who seen some action will tell you, aint a pimp livin or dead ever turned out a ho better than they own mamma and daddy did.

women hate criticism. but so do a lot of these dudes. cause i mean, shit they was raised by women. its natural that they would take on some of these characteristics. why u think these niggas wearin girl jeans nowadays? see, i aint makin excuses for nobody. if u cant see urself, ill show u what i see. and i aint gonna hold back on it. cause these females have been spoiled to the point of a hard return. and they wanna be spoiled. but a spoiled child aint happy. they always cryin. cause they always want somethin else. thats just like u black women. and until u recognize that its there and fill that void, stop expectin me (us) to fill it for u.

so do somethin different. anything. instead of always complainin... 'specially 'bout the same ol' shit...

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